Do It Myself Blog – Glenda Watson Hyatt

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Ten Years of Married Bliss, Already?

Filed under: Living with a disability — by Glenda at 6:36 pm on Friday, August 1, 2008

Darrell and Glenda, both in wheelchairs, exchanging their wedding vows

Do you remember what you were doing ten years ago today?

I sure do!

I, along with a team of family members, bridesmaids, soon-to-be in-laws and my fiancé, were taking care of a seemingly million things before the Big Day!

Yes, Darrell and I have been ten years tomorrow! Ten years? Already? Where does the time go?

I won’t say the past ten years have been easy; every married couple would know I’d be lying. But, I am grateful and thankful for being on this journey.

Darrell and Glenda married

Darrell is a wonderfully loving and caring husband. He supports my ambitions and ideas, no matter how crazy they may sound at the time. He knows how to handle me when I am about ready to toss my computer out the window. He keeps me well stocked in chocolate – the good kind! And, when he holds me, I feel safe in his arms.

Reflecting back over the past decade together, one lesson that I’ve learned is the importance of understanding and patience, which isn’t always easy for a fiery red-head. Sometimes it’s much easier to fire out a “Why weren’t listening?” when says he didn’t hear me, but what would that do, except hurt the one I love? Instead, I try to take a deep breath and repeat myself, calmly. I confess that I don’t always succeed, and, occasionally, those verbal darts shoot out.

The same goes for understanding. Although I don’t believe it is possible to fully understand what it is like to walk in another’s shoes, so to speak, I do believe it is possible to better understand, which takes communication and patience from both individuals. After ten years, I finally better understand what it is like for Darrell to have absolutely no depth perception. I now better understand that when I go zipping along the sidewalk downhill, he feels he is about to drop off of a cliff. I now try to be more aware and to guide him. Getting to that point took several discussions, a few tears and much patience.

In the end, it comes down to accepting each other’s quirks, and accommodating and working around (or with) them as a team, as a married couple.

Happy anniversary, Darrell! God willing, and as along as we don’t kill one another before then, let’s go for another ten!

 Married hands showing the wedding rings
Two lives,
Two hearts,
Joined in friendship,
United forever in love….

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Comment by Darrell

August 1, 2008 @ 7:17 pm

Hi dear

I was thinking more of 50+ years rather then 10 more.

Darrell

Comment by Joanna Young

August 2, 2008 @ 1:29 am

Happy Anniversary to you both!

Joanna

Comment by Urban Panther

August 2, 2008 @ 12:14 pm

Congrats! The Urbane Lion’s and my relationship is fairly new (8 months and counting), but you made a good point about communicating for better understanding. I’m the one who slips up on this. When I eventually point something out to the Lion he says “Ma belle, if you don’t tell me these things, I can’t possibly know.” He is so correct! I can’t expect him to read my mind, and when I do tell him, he is always so responsive. Thanks for the friendly reminder. Wishing you another happy 50 (eh, Darrell). *smile*

Comment by Amanda

August 2, 2008 @ 12:17 pm

Oh many congratulations to you both! How wonderful that you have had so many years together and here’s to many more!!

Comment by Karen Putz / DeafMom

August 2, 2008 @ 3:30 pm

Congrats to you both! Here’s to 50 more!

Comment by Al at 7P

August 4, 2008 @ 12:28 am

Happy anniversary Glenda!

Comment by Marti

August 8, 2008 @ 3:13 pm

Congratulations and best wishes for many more happy decades together!

Thank you so much for stopping by – I love hearing from my friends!

Hope you have a wonderful day!

Comment by Loree

August 12, 2008 @ 9:01 pm

Congrats Darrell & Glenda!

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