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Doctor Dismisses Hormones of a Woman with Cerebral Palsy

Filed under: Living with a disability — by Glenda at 4:49 pm on Friday, March 20, 2009

After feeling dead-butt tired for more than three weeks and after the sad death of actress Natasha Richardson following a minor bump to the head, I figured it was time to go to the doctor to make sure this tiredness is nothing serious.

I decided to go to the local clinic. Not the ideal choice, but getting an appointment with my family doctor can take a week. Besides, I haven’t seen him since he told me that bones don’t hurt; that the deep, stabbing pain I was experiencing then was due to my cerebral palsy, not due to the medication Fosamax for osteoporosis. (Funny how the pain completely disappeared as soon as I stopped taking the medication!) And, getting into the Access Clinic at BC Women’s Hospital could take several weeks, if not months. The only choice was the walk-in clinic with whatever doctor is on call.

Darrell and I wait in the exam room, with the door wide open. There’s no way to close it with both of large wheelchairs in the room. Thankfully, a personal procedure wasn’t required…

The doctor comes in and begins asking questions, looking to Darrell for the answers; not even trying to understand my speech. He quickly decides to send me for blood work. Yes, that was my main goal.

While he is completing the form, I ask him what he is testing for. Thyroid, liver, and blood sugar. Great.

I then ask, “Are you testing my hormones too?”

He asks, “Why hormones,“ while giving me and my chair a long, hard glance

I fire back, “Why NOT hormones,” trying to suppress the urge to smack him.

“Well, because of your condition, you aren’t sexually active.” What?! Then he looks at Darrell and asks, “Are you girlfriend-boyfriend?”

Darrell promptly tells him that we are married. His eyes spin around in his head, then notes “married to a man who also has cp” on my chart.

What does it matter what I do in the bedroom? I still have frickin’  hormones, I am 42 and changes are happening. Test my hormonal levels, damn it!

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8 Comments »

Comment by Cheryl

March 20, 2009 @ 7:51 pm

All I can say is OMG

Comment by Avril

March 20, 2009 @ 8:58 pm

All I can say is, I would have been tempted to do something to him to ensure HE wasn’t sexually active anymore, if you get my drift!!!

Sheesh.

So did he end up testing your hormones after all, I hope?

Comment by Joanna Young

March 21, 2009 @ 12:38 am

Glenda, I am speechless. Your blood must have been boiling after this! Hope you get some decent help and advice soon.

Comment by Troy

March 21, 2009 @ 10:09 am

My wife gets similar treatment. We are cp’ers too.

Comment by Amanda

March 21, 2009 @ 10:47 am

Oh that is absolutely appalling – did you make a formal complaint about him? I remember when I was 19 a GYN made me cry and then practically threw me out of his room whilst still crying because I couldn’t make a decision between “do nothing, take a cocktail of painkillers, or stop complaining” after hearing there couldn’t possibly be anything wrong with me because I was 19, sexually inactive and didn’t have kids… took me 2 more years of fighting to get the endometriosis diagnosis by which time it has caused damage and I was still young, sexually inactive and didn’t have kids… sometimes how they treat women is bad enough but to bring in your cp as another reason not to test for hormones and treat you like that is awful. I’m so sorry you had to experience that.

Comment by Gwen

March 21, 2009 @ 1:34 pm

That is inexcusable behavior on the part of that doctor! Unfortunately, inexcusable doesn’t mean uncommon. Is there some ethics or governing board, or something of the sort, that you can report his incompetent patient skills to? You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, and he obviously wasn’t concerned with fulfilling his *obligation* in that respect.

Comment by Nickie

March 23, 2009 @ 2:11 pm

Wow! I’ve seen a lot of horrible behavior by doctors, but stuff like this never stops horrifying me. I’d definitely report him if you can. And I still don’t get his logic because whether you’re sexually active or not doesn’t impact whether you go into menopause or deal with other hormonal challenges.

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